No rain no flowers

This time around last year my ex and I were in the break up phase.

A pretty 💩-ity place to be in marriage.

Today, fast forward a year, we left the divorce lawyers office under the same umbrella ☔️ as it rained.

We left the office agreeing to be as fair with the split as humanly possible.

It felt like a pretty good place to be.

A mutual consent to go our separate ways, but having each other backs for the sake of our kids.

I got married at 19 and I will be 29 this year.

My mom and dad were in and out of my life.

My ex also came from broken/divorced home.

Needless to say this breeds codependency among other things.

My grandmothers were the biggest influence in my life and the same for my ex.

So we both wanted a family even at young ages.

I grew up repeatedly hearing both my grandmothers talk about how they both got married at 16 years old.

So subconsciously and consciously I knew I wanted to get married at a young age & similar situation with my ex.

We accomplished a lot throughout our marriage

-Bought a house at age 24

-Had our kids in wedlock

-Our first born was born on our one year anniversary date

-We birthed our second child at home in water alone without help from a doctor or nurse

-Got careers

-Got cars

-Didn’t have sexual relations with each other prior to our marriage

BUT

We also got married to each other out of scarcity mindset.

Trying to fill holes we didn’t receive as kids coming from our broken homes.

We both didn’t even really know our own selves getting married at such a young age.

While I’ll spare specific details of marital ups and down.

Just know that usually things are not all good or all bad.

You can look for the good and bad in every situation.

BUT

I think we are both very much excited for this next step and next journey in life.

At least I have been very excited to see what’s to come in this next phase of life.

Knowing that as coparents we will both always do what’s in the best interest of our kids.

I think leaving the divorce law office under the same umbrella ☔️ as it rained getting into different cars is the perfect symbol for this next phase in life.

No rain 🌧

No flowers 🌸

That’s it. That’s the end. ♥️ & Im 👏🏽here 👏🏽for👏🏽 it.👏🏽